Relationship Counselling And Marriage Therapy In Downtown Toronto
Romantic relationships are intense. They bring out the best and the worst in us. Learning how to work through obstacles in a relationship is crucial to long-term success. Through the therapy process, couples can connect more deeply through deeper understanding of each other and through experiencing new ways of relating to each other, facilitated in the therapy.
All human relationships have the potential to encounter obstacles. Co-workers, siblings, and friends often find relationship therapy to be a useful way to get a new perspective on their relationship and address roadblocks that have developed.
Relationship therapy helps two people de-escalate their conflicts and slowly begin to identify the deeper feelings that lie underneath their conflicts. Working with a therapist helps people to understand each other and move past issues which have held them back.
My work with couples is informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy, an evidence-based interpretation of attachment theory, and psychoanalytic psychotherapy.
Before our first meeting, I usually have a short phone conversation with one of the members of the couple. During that conversation we talk about the issues from the perspective of that person and I ensure that I believe we will be a fit. If not, I will suggest other possible resources or professionals.
In the first meeting the couple comes to see me in my office. Each member of the couple has a chance to share their view of the relationship and the current issues in the relationship. I will ask questions and offer my perspective. It is a meeting for the three of us to get comfortable with each other and figure out what work needs to be done.
Next, I ask each member of the couple to come see me separately for one meeting. This is an opportunity for me to hear from each person in more depth. It is also a chance for me to ask about each person's family history and life experiences. It is also an opportunity for us to get to know each other as individuals.
The following week, the three of us reconvene and start to work on the issues. In relationship therapy you are looking to make changes. It is generally not helpful to repeat the same arguments you have at home over and over in my office. As a result, once I have a sense of the dynamic I will slow down the process and help you to understand what is happening between you.
What Couples Therapy Is Like
Couples work can be really difficult. It is intense and asks a lot of both people in the relationship. It can also impact your relationship in a significant way.
I love working with couples and welcome your call. Contact me to talk about how we can get started.
ONE OF OUR MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIPS IS WITH OUR SIGNIFICANT OTHEROf all of our relationships, this is the one that has the greatest potential to be our most fulfilling and supportive relationships – and it is with this great expectation that we enter into a long-term commitment with our partners.
With that said, it is also the relationship that also has the greatest potential hurt us, to trigger our deepest pain and sensitivities. Is it any wonder that intimate relationships become more difficult over time? There seems to be so much at stake, and over time, the relationship can often become governed by fear and shame.
There is another way!
Your relationship with your significant other can be a safe refuge in the storms of life – a source of strength and support for both of you. The journey there takes dedication and hard work. After all, bringing together two different people and weaving together two different complex sets of history is no simple matter.
Those who are willing to invest time and effort into this process can reap the great rewards in their most intimate of relationships. As you do so, you can expect the following:
The approach that I use with my clients is built on Emotion-Focused Therapy, an empirically validated approach to psychotherapy. I also integrate other ideas around family systems theory, attachment theory and narrative therapy. For more information about this, please click here.
ISSUES THAT BRING COUPLES TO COUPLES THERAPY: